Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Will The Real Slim Nursey, Please Stand Up

By Chiqui Raveloski

I am sure that most of you have heard of the term "Slim Shady". But for those who have not, listen up.
"Slim shady" is a term popularized by rapper/artist Eminem through his hit song "The Real Slim Shady" in the early 2000's. Slim shady is his alter ego....kinda, more like his villainous side. It is dark and rebellious.

Now, you are probably wondering why am I talking about "Slim Shady". As I was listening to Eminem during one of my leisurely afternoon rides, I cannot help but take on a different approach on the song. You know how it is when you read a book the 2nd or third time around . You find something new in the story line that made you more interested with the book all over again.

Well, the same thing happened to me when I heard the song once again. It seems to me that the term "Slim Shady" morphed into something even beautiful in my own eyes.  This time around, he's telling everyone to find  their "Slim Shady"  It means to embrace your rebellious side, to not care what anyone thinks.When you do this, you become one with your true self, rather than imitating someone else so you can blend in and work your way through the matrix. 

This is where it gets tricky.  The term rebellious now becomes ambiguous. It is now open to a different interpretation.

With this said, rebelling does not necessarily mean to be negative. You are rebelling from the norm, from yourself. Rebelling from the status quo brings great benefits. You start questioning authority, you think for yourself and form your own opinion. When this happens, it can help you achieve goals that you once thought you cannot do. It can serve as a positive compass....sort of as an inspiration. And when you're inspired, you are apt to do things that means something to you and you find meaning in what you are doing.

When you take a step back, you have the tendency to re-examine what you have become. If for any reason you start doubting what you have become, you can begin to make changes in your daily life, daily work habits, daily rituals to better find yourself once again. 

It is now time to find your Slim Nursey.

Let's take for example our profession as nurses. You know well as I do that this chosen profession of ours is very unique yet demanding. It requires so much of your mind, body, and spirit. The challenges we face everyday at work can easily drain and burn us out. When we get burned out, we lose ourselves, our identity, the true meaning of why we became nurses.

I truly believe that we became nurses because of our desire to care for people. Our patients become our inspiration. They give us the drive to make a difference. But, making a difference takes a back seat when work becomes hectic, and sometimes, you don't even have time for a break 

It is now time to take control of your life once again. It.s time to change the same music that has been playing in your head over and over again. Making changes in your life does not have to be drastic. You can do it slowly but surely. This way, it becomes a new habit that can create lasting positive changes in your life.

You can start by asking yourself every morning when you wake up. What is the one thing I can do today that can make a positive difference to me and the people around me? This is a great question to start off your day.I am sure you can come up with so many things, but start with the simplest one then work your way up.

Love and respect yourself. You hear this a lot, I know. But as a nurse, you give so much of yourself, you forget you. Not unless you learn to do this, you will miss the opportunity of experiencing love and respect from people around you.

My husband taught me, you always have a choice. It is a matter of choosing the right one for you. This is different for everyone. But I always choose my decisions that will produce positive effect for me and the people around me. 

When you choose to make a difference, you look for the positive in everything. Easier said than done! But, one thing you can do is not add to any more of the negativity. You become the center of hope and encouragement. You start to get motivated and you become inspiring to many. And when you inspire people, it can create a chain reaction capable of breaking barriers.

Always remember, it is the little things that make a world of difference. A smile, a helping hand, a caring heart you already have, a sincere touch. Nursing is all of these and more

Just like what Eminem said, "There is a Slim Shady in all of us".

So. all you Slim Nurseys out there, let's all stand up, fight for your rights, your patient's rights, and what you truly believe in - yourself..

Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Sex In The Workplace

By Chiqui Raveloski

We hear so much of sex in the workplace. It happens and it is a big hush – hush. But why does it keep on happening?

Recently, at another hospital in the county, I heard through the grapevine that the only hospitalist on the 7p-7a shift wasn’t answering his cell phone when a nurse was looking for him about a patient. Several calls were made, with no success. Nursing supervisor then was contacted and the nursing supervisor proceeded to look for him, thinking he might be sleeping in the “sleep room”. Upon reaching the sleep room, the nursing supervisor heard “voices” behind the locked door. The Super then used her master key to open the door and found a very nice surprise. The hospitalist and an off duty nurse doing the “nasty”. She was naked and the hospitalist scrambling for his clothes!

The off duty nurse was given 3 days suspension. The hospitalist, Its been a while since anyone had seen him.

I’m sure occurences like this happen so many times in the workplace. Just shows you that people no matter who you are love to have fun, more specifically sex. 

I can't help but laugh about this. It is ridiculously funny in all levels. Its like Grey's Anatomy ... live! First of all, sex in the workplace is so risky that's why its exciting to many. This is why it happens. If you have to get your groove on, do it somewhere else. Not in the work place

Next, it is no surprise that if the door is locked and you hear "noises", unless someone is yelling for help. MYOB and come back after 10 minutes. No, maybe  after 3 minutes? :)

I am not even sure if there is a hospital policy stating "absolutely no sex in the workplace during work hours". Maybe one is in the making as we speak. 

This is how I look at it. These are 2 consenting adults. They were doing their business behind closed doors. They were not doing it in public. The hospitalist, I'm sure was allowed a break under labor laws. The mistake happened when the page was not answered. Patient's safety was compromised. And no matter how you look at it, that was the main issue in this event. Everything else, I leave it up to you.

I am not condoning it. Especially, I believe they are both married - but, not to each other. Infidelity, another issue. There is just so many angles to this story.

The suspended nurse, she was off duty. Did she deserve the suspension? What do you think?

Thursday, July 4, 2013

My "Inner Ninja"

By Chiqui Raveloski

Have you ever felt like you are stuck in a rut? Everything you have been doing is the same thing over and over again ? No challenge, just going with the flow. Like the movie  Groundhog Day with Bill Murray Everyday is a repeat of the day before.

Life can feel that way sometimes. Yet, here lately, I found myself doing things outside my comfort zone. Not necessarily by choice. But, circumstances dictated  me to tackle on something unfamiliar. This might not even pose as something big for most of you. But for me, as a creature of habit, it kinda rattled me a little bit.

For example, last month when we went to Myrtle Beach. my husband pulled a ligament on his left knee. As a result, left leg was non functional and  was in terrible pain. Our Wrangler is a 6 speed manual, not suitable for someone with a hurt left leg. This left me to drive 400 miles back to Georgia. See, my husband always did the driving. This time, I had to put my big girl's panties on and drove us home. It was uncomfortable at first, but after about 30 miles or so of unfamiliar roads, it felt fine.

The anticipation of driving an unfamiliar route posed as a distraction, but all I did was follow and actually LISTENED to the GPS and everything went fine. Of course, with my husbands reassurances, made the trip as comfortable as it could be. I had a great time driving my family home safely and at the same time, it was an ego booster to do something I haven't done in quite a while.

Another experience was that of yesterday. My husband and I have been looking for an old Chevy Camaro Z28 as a toy that we can work on. After wheeling and dealing with the auction guy over the phone, we finally found and purchased one. My husband had to be at work and someone need to pick this car up from the auction place. My husband was always there to do the legwork. But, since he has to be at work. I have to do the necessary steps to close this deal.

Needless to say, the next day, I picked up this beautiful white Chevy Z28 from the auction ground, accompanied by our middle man. The auction place was about 30 minutes away from where we lived. Again, I was faced with a decision to drive this racing machine back home from a place where I am not familiar with. The only thing I can think of was, "Oh crap, hope I don't wreck this thing!". The saving grace was our middle man was heading back to the area where we live, and thus, I could follow him.

Again, out of my comfort zone, I proceeded to tackle this task armed with my big girls' panties! During the drive, as I listened to the powerful V8  5.7L engine started to purr at 80 miles per hour, the only thing I wanted to do was step on the gas some more to really open it up. Never had that experience before. See, this is my first V8 machine. I was secretly hoping that our middle man would speed up more so I can step on the gas and have some real fun on our new toy.

But darn, since he said he would drive at a decent speed so I can follow, I did not reach but 90 mph to say the least.

During my drive, I realized that doing things outside my comfort zone can be liberating. I have been doing things that are familiar and comfortable, forgetting that I can learn something out of being challenged. I have always talked about we need to pay attention to life because there are lessons waiting to be learned. Little did I know that I have limited myself from learning more by doing things that are common and within my comfort zone.

Here's a few things I learned during these unexpected circumstances.

Be prepared. Like girl scouts and boy scouts, be prepared for the unexpected. Life has many surprises, some bigger than the others. But always remember, You Can Do It. You are a smart and an able individual. You can always find ways to overcome the challenge.

Seize the opportunity. We always hear of opportunity knocking only once. This might be true. But I think opportunities are there all the time. It is just a matter of seizing it, take it, and use the knowledge you already have to better yourself.

You have the inner strength.  Have you heard that new song " Inner Ninja" by David Myles . Realizing you have the inner strength to overcome anything teaches you of your core strengths as well as your weaknesses. In time, you can grow from each experience giving you a better outlook in life and yourself. This is through your inner Ninja!

Have fun. Easier said than done. However, I always try to look at the fun part out of something. One example, my Wrangler got soaked a few times 2 weeks ago. Been driving it with no doors and top off. Finally got it dried off after a week of letting it out in the sun. One afternoon, decided to drive out, sunny afternoon, and viola!..... afternoon showers hit us. Got the top up but no doors. Needless to say, got wet again. So upset, but after a few minutes, I had the overwhelming feeling of just enjoying the raindrops hit my legs while driving the Wrangler with no doors. I started smiling and actually just had fun with it. If you can't beat them, join 'em.

I know as nurses, sometimes we feel like we are stuck in our job. As much as most of it is true :), we can still find other areas in nursing that we can embark on. It is just a matter of going for it. One of the beauty in the nursing field is that there are so many areas we can get into. I did med surg / telemetry for 3 years and found myself burnt out. I realized it was time to move on and find something very different. I decided to try ER Case Management. I was unsure of what I was doing but I found it very intriguing that I am even entertaining the idea of jumping into something very new.

So I did it. I have been doing ER Case Management for 2 years and I have to say I have learned so much. At the same time, I went back to bedside nursing one year ago on a PRN basis. Realized why I left in the first place. Don't get me wrong, I love the patient care, it is the beurocracy behind it that really gets me.What can I say, it is what it is.

Just remembered: While my husband and I were talking this morning about our new toy, he mentioned that he came across this article at work which basically stated that one of the ways for staying young is to do things outside your comfort zone.

While you might just want to settle for the status quo, sudden changes can sometimes be unavoidable. Accept the challenges with open heart and mind. This is how you grow and progress. You are equipped with God given talents, drive, perseverance, and most of all resilience. The unpredictabilities of life becomes your ultimate teacher. And you learn to pay attention to your teacher because you are always ready to take the next test.

And when the next test comes, you can quietly say " Hi, Ya!!!", while doing your Ninja pose!

"Inner Ninja"
(feat. David Myles)

– Ninja? You're a ninja? Get out of here, you're a ninja!
– Yes, I am a ninja.

I read the rules before I broke 'em
I broke the chains before they choked me out
Now I pay close attention
Really learn the code
I learned to read the map before I hit the road

Hey yo, I know you never heard this before
But I'd rather lose a fight than miss the war
And I ain't wishing competition or fishin' for it
I'm just living in the system, conditions are poor
I've been lost in the rhythm and misinformed
Too many late nights hittin' the liquor store
Too many bad decisions, half assed attempts
No sweat, no fear, no blood, no tears
I go hard and I ain't makin' up no excuse
I'm overdue, I don't do what I'm supposed to do
Cause you can think about it man, we're supposed to lose
It ain't all picture perfect, ocean views
No, I was a first class rookie,
Takin' out bullies in my all black hoodie
Man of mystery, you know the history
Get it or forget it, cause poof, I'm outta here

I read the rules before I broke 'em
I broke the chains before they choked me out
And I pay close attention
Really learn the code
I learned to read the map before I hit the road

(But we say)

Nobody's gonna see me comin'
Nobody's gonna hear a sound
No matter how hard they tryin'
No stoppin' me since I've found
My inner ninja [4x]

Hey yo, I've been high and I've been real low
I've been beaten and broken but I healed though
So many ups and downs, roughed up and clowned
We all got problems, but we deal though
I'm tryin' to do better now, find my inner peace
Learn my art form, and find my inner Chi
When my backs on the wall, I don't freeze up
Nah, I find my inner strength and I re-up
Here we go, I know I've never been the smartest or wisest
But I realize what it takes
Never dwell in the dark cause the sun always rises
But gotta make it to the next day
It's a feeling that you get in your lungs when you run
Like you're runnin' outta air and your breath won't come
And you (uh) wheezin', gotta keep it movin'
Find that extra (uhn) and push your way through it

I've had bad habits but I dropped em, I dropped em
I've had opponents but I knocked them out
I climbed the highest mountains
I swum the coldest seas
There ain't a thing I've faced that's been too much for me

( but we say)
Nobody's gonna see me comin'
Nobody's gonna hear a sound
No matter how hard they tryin'
Nobody's gonna bring me down

Nobody's gonna see me comin'
Nobody's gonna hear a sound
No matter how hard they tryin'
No stoppin' me since I've found
My inner ninja [4x]

I've had bad habits but I dropped em, I dropped em
I've had opponents but I knocked them out
I climbed the highest mountains
I swum the coldest seas
There ain't a thing I've faced that's been too much for me

– Man, that was dope!
– You think?
– What're you, like, a third degree black belt?
– Actually, I'm not even in karate but I've found... my inner ninja!