Thursday, July 4, 2013

My "Inner Ninja"

By Chiqui Raveloski

Have you ever felt like you are stuck in a rut? Everything you have been doing is the same thing over and over again ? No challenge, just going with the flow. Like the movie  Groundhog Day with Bill Murray Everyday is a repeat of the day before.

Life can feel that way sometimes. Yet, here lately, I found myself doing things outside my comfort zone. Not necessarily by choice. But, circumstances dictated  me to tackle on something unfamiliar. This might not even pose as something big for most of you. But for me, as a creature of habit, it kinda rattled me a little bit.

For example, last month when we went to Myrtle Beach. my husband pulled a ligament on his left knee. As a result, left leg was non functional and  was in terrible pain. Our Wrangler is a 6 speed manual, not suitable for someone with a hurt left leg. This left me to drive 400 miles back to Georgia. See, my husband always did the driving. This time, I had to put my big girl's panties on and drove us home. It was uncomfortable at first, but after about 30 miles or so of unfamiliar roads, it felt fine.

The anticipation of driving an unfamiliar route posed as a distraction, but all I did was follow and actually LISTENED to the GPS and everything went fine. Of course, with my husbands reassurances, made the trip as comfortable as it could be. I had a great time driving my family home safely and at the same time, it was an ego booster to do something I haven't done in quite a while.

Another experience was that of yesterday. My husband and I have been looking for an old Chevy Camaro Z28 as a toy that we can work on. After wheeling and dealing with the auction guy over the phone, we finally found and purchased one. My husband had to be at work and someone need to pick this car up from the auction place. My husband was always there to do the legwork. But, since he has to be at work. I have to do the necessary steps to close this deal.

Needless to say, the next day, I picked up this beautiful white Chevy Z28 from the auction ground, accompanied by our middle man. The auction place was about 30 minutes away from where we lived. Again, I was faced with a decision to drive this racing machine back home from a place where I am not familiar with. The only thing I can think of was, "Oh crap, hope I don't wreck this thing!". The saving grace was our middle man was heading back to the area where we live, and thus, I could follow him.

Again, out of my comfort zone, I proceeded to tackle this task armed with my big girls' panties! During the drive, as I listened to the powerful V8  5.7L engine started to purr at 80 miles per hour, the only thing I wanted to do was step on the gas some more to really open it up. Never had that experience before. See, this is my first V8 machine. I was secretly hoping that our middle man would speed up more so I can step on the gas and have some real fun on our new toy.

But darn, since he said he would drive at a decent speed so I can follow, I did not reach but 90 mph to say the least.

During my drive, I realized that doing things outside my comfort zone can be liberating. I have been doing things that are familiar and comfortable, forgetting that I can learn something out of being challenged. I have always talked about we need to pay attention to life because there are lessons waiting to be learned. Little did I know that I have limited myself from learning more by doing things that are common and within my comfort zone.

Here's a few things I learned during these unexpected circumstances.

Be prepared. Like girl scouts and boy scouts, be prepared for the unexpected. Life has many surprises, some bigger than the others. But always remember, You Can Do It. You are a smart and an able individual. You can always find ways to overcome the challenge.

Seize the opportunity. We always hear of opportunity knocking only once. This might be true. But I think opportunities are there all the time. It is just a matter of seizing it, take it, and use the knowledge you already have to better yourself.

You have the inner strength.  Have you heard that new song " Inner Ninja" by David Myles . Realizing you have the inner strength to overcome anything teaches you of your core strengths as well as your weaknesses. In time, you can grow from each experience giving you a better outlook in life and yourself. This is through your inner Ninja!

Have fun. Easier said than done. However, I always try to look at the fun part out of something. One example, my Wrangler got soaked a few times 2 weeks ago. Been driving it with no doors and top off. Finally got it dried off after a week of letting it out in the sun. One afternoon, decided to drive out, sunny afternoon, and viola!..... afternoon showers hit us. Got the top up but no doors. Needless to say, got wet again. So upset, but after a few minutes, I had the overwhelming feeling of just enjoying the raindrops hit my legs while driving the Wrangler with no doors. I started smiling and actually just had fun with it. If you can't beat them, join 'em.

I know as nurses, sometimes we feel like we are stuck in our job. As much as most of it is true :), we can still find other areas in nursing that we can embark on. It is just a matter of going for it. One of the beauty in the nursing field is that there are so many areas we can get into. I did med surg / telemetry for 3 years and found myself burnt out. I realized it was time to move on and find something very different. I decided to try ER Case Management. I was unsure of what I was doing but I found it very intriguing that I am even entertaining the idea of jumping into something very new.

So I did it. I have been doing ER Case Management for 2 years and I have to say I have learned so much. At the same time, I went back to bedside nursing one year ago on a PRN basis. Realized why I left in the first place. Don't get me wrong, I love the patient care, it is the beurocracy behind it that really gets me.What can I say, it is what it is.

Just remembered: While my husband and I were talking this morning about our new toy, he mentioned that he came across this article at work which basically stated that one of the ways for staying young is to do things outside your comfort zone.

While you might just want to settle for the status quo, sudden changes can sometimes be unavoidable. Accept the challenges with open heart and mind. This is how you grow and progress. You are equipped with God given talents, drive, perseverance, and most of all resilience. The unpredictabilities of life becomes your ultimate teacher. And you learn to pay attention to your teacher because you are always ready to take the next test.

And when the next test comes, you can quietly say " Hi, Ya!!!", while doing your Ninja pose!





"Inner Ninja"
(feat. David Myles)

– Ninja? You're a ninja? Get out of here, you're a ninja!
– Yes, I am a ninja.

I read the rules before I broke 'em
I broke the chains before they choked me out
Now I pay close attention
Really learn the code
I learned to read the map before I hit the road

Hey yo, I know you never heard this before
But I'd rather lose a fight than miss the war
And I ain't wishing competition or fishin' for it
I'm just living in the system, conditions are poor
I've been lost in the rhythm and misinformed
Too many late nights hittin' the liquor store
Too many bad decisions, half assed attempts
No sweat, no fear, no blood, no tears
I go hard and I ain't makin' up no excuse
I'm overdue, I don't do what I'm supposed to do
Cause you can think about it man, we're supposed to lose
It ain't all picture perfect, ocean views
No, I was a first class rookie,
Takin' out bullies in my all black hoodie
Man of mystery, you know the history
Get it or forget it, cause poof, I'm outta here

I read the rules before I broke 'em
I broke the chains before they choked me out
And I pay close attention
Really learn the code
I learned to read the map before I hit the road

(But we say)

Nobody's gonna see me comin'
Nobody's gonna hear a sound
No matter how hard they tryin'
No stoppin' me since I've found
My inner ninja [4x]

Hey yo, I've been high and I've been real low
I've been beaten and broken but I healed though
So many ups and downs, roughed up and clowned
We all got problems, but we deal though
I'm tryin' to do better now, find my inner peace
Learn my art form, and find my inner Chi
When my backs on the wall, I don't freeze up
Nah, I find my inner strength and I re-up
Here we go, I know I've never been the smartest or wisest
But I realize what it takes
Never dwell in the dark cause the sun always rises
But gotta make it to the next day
It's a feeling that you get in your lungs when you run
Like you're runnin' outta air and your breath won't come
And you (uh) wheezin', gotta keep it movin'
Find that extra (uhn) and push your way through it

I've had bad habits but I dropped em, I dropped em
I've had opponents but I knocked them out
I climbed the highest mountains
I swum the coldest seas
There ain't a thing I've faced that's been too much for me

( but we say)
Nobody's gonna see me comin'
Nobody's gonna hear a sound
No matter how hard they tryin'
Nobody's gonna bring me down

Nobody's gonna see me comin'
Nobody's gonna hear a sound
No matter how hard they tryin'
No stoppin' me since I've found
My inner ninja [4x]

I've had bad habits but I dropped em, I dropped em
I've had opponents but I knocked them out
I climbed the highest mountains
I swum the coldest seas
There ain't a thing I've faced that's been too much for me

– Man, that was dope!
– You think?
– What're you, like, a third degree black belt?
– Actually, I'm not even in karate but I've found... my inner ninja!


2 comments:

  1. Great words of advice here.

    I've often used the "Ground Hog Day" reference myself. Or, being the hamster stuck on the wheel.

    I'll make sure to do one thing differently today.

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  2. Thanks Kevin
    I have been looking for a different PRN nursing job that I can get into. I actually applied to do psych nursing and /or telephone advise nurse. Ready to try something different.

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